Cooking with someone isn't fun or intimate…it's infuriating, amirite?

Sounds more like you just don't work well with others in the kitchen.

by Rosenbaumeveret 2 days ago

My Mom felt the same way and that's why I had to teach myself to cook in my twenties lol

by Advanced_Honey 2 days ago

Only if you're a control freak

by breanamcculloug 2 days ago

Or you just want to get things done. I can't imagine what you would be even be doing in the kitchen that needs two people. What fancy exotic dishes are you people cooking? Some of us just want to get the cooking over with, it's not hey let's socialize and deal with somebody underfoot demanding our attention time.

by mariam03 2 days ago

Maybe some of your family would like to learn. Sheesh.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

What. I have a tiny kitchen and my wife and I cook together all the time. It goes much faster than cooking alone. And it is much more fun.

by beattywilfred 2 days ago

For us my husband measures everything out and i mix it. Or ill work on one part of the meal like the rice and my husband will work on the meat.

by Express_Economy_6463 2 days ago

I think this boils down to personality. For me that sounds like absolute hell on earth. I know how to measure, I don't need somebody coming in treating me like a child, and I don't want somebody in my space while I'm working. Some people are just over social like that and they've got to have someone around I guess.

by mariam03 2 days ago

I feel like it's a mixed bag, and definitely depends on who you ask as well as what kind of a place you live in. If the kitchen is too small for 2 people to be in it, then yeah, not really a good couple activity. Same thing if you have a method of doing things but don't know how to explain the method. For others though, it seems like a good bonding experience. It's not for everyone though

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Me and my wife love cooking together because we're best friends and get along well.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

lol I think you're making an unfair assumption. Some people just have a chaotic way of doing things and trying to explain your "methods" (or lack of) is just frustrating.

by Designer-Diamond8321 2 days ago

Exactly. I love my wife. We get along. But she is a train wreck in the kitchen. Just sit over there, sip your drink and keep me company. I'll have dinner on the table in no time.

by Fresh_Bake 2 days ago

Ugh, my unpopular opinion is "the look at us where best friends" couples are insufferable

by Konopelskidayto 2 days ago

If you find other people expressing their happiness insufferable, that might be a you problem.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

jealousy.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If you have to tell people your partner is your best friend in every conversation about relationships, that's insecurity. I'm not jealous of insecurity.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Seething with jealousy as I sit here with my wife and daughter. I keep screaming "BE MY BEST FRIEND!" Over and over at them.

by Konopelskidayto 2 days ago

Well why doesn't she want to be your best friend? Why you gotta keep asking

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Just annoyance. If I wanted to see a performance I would take in a play.

by mariam03 1 day ago

Who's performing?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If you have to perform for everybody to show them how you're such good friends it's a performance.

by mariam03 1 day ago

It's not a performance, it's a description of how my wife and I interact and live together. Some couples dont get along very well, we do.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Why would I want to marry someone that wasn't my best friend? Who better to go through life with?

by beattywilfred 1 day ago

^

by jessy08 1 day ago

I wouldn't even want to make cookies with a best friend either. I love cooking but the sensory parts of it are already too much for me and when my hands are covered in batter I don't want to speak to no one. I do like to help with passively cutting veggies at the table etc, just not taking part in actually cooking stuff in the kitchen part.

by Radiant-Cry 1 day ago

Suggestion: have the friend put their hands in the batter. That way you can enjoy the convo and avoid the sensory issues

by CheesecakeBusy4250 1 day ago

You can have plenty of friends, that doesn't mean you want somebody harassing you and getting underfoot while you're trying to do something. Cooking is cooking, not everybody sees it as super fun happy time. You just want to get it over with like ripping off a band-aid.

by mariam03 1 day ago

9 1/2 Weeks?

by IllInternal 1 day ago

That's was just cleaning out the fridge. There was no cooking.

by Carolynefahey 1 day ago

Well, they were kind of cooking in a way, but you're right

by IllInternal 1 day ago

It's about making use of the extra hands. Are you preparing the chicken? Then, hey partner, can you start chopping up the veggies over there in that far corner of the kitchen for me? Most people offering to help 1) don't mind a little work and 2) aren't looking to take over your kitchen. Just give them some little busy work away from the main stage. They can stir the pot, or watch something that's frying in a pan while your back is turned if the kitchen is larger. If not, they can peel potatoes in the other room.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sounds like you just aren't good at working together. Some people annoy me when I'm cooking with them, but the ones that are half decent at it understand how to stay out of each others way and help when needed. And it's great.

by bashiriancole 1 day ago

Skill issue I love cooking with my SO. She actually couldn't cook anything when we met originally. It was also fun teaching her.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I never fight with my so but if we are cooking sudenly it's Master chef and I am the worst cook of the history😆

by Anonymous 1 day ago

My kitchen is the size of a laundry machine, so I agree with this in practice. In a kitchen with an island, or just with decent cutting space, I wouldn't mind sharing.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'll do you one better…cooking at all isn't fun.

by Potential-Monk 1 day ago

What makes it infuriating? I think it's nice to have help when it's not a simple dish. When my partner or I are cooking one person is doing the cooking and the other will often offer help. The person cooking gives instructions on what they can help with. So it's genuinely helpful. What happens when people help with you?

by Lucinda67 1 day ago

I'm big and fast. She's small and slow. It's just an opportunity to snack. "Why don't we cook something completely different?" halfway through cooking the first thing. "Oh I have a recipe" thing she found on her phone involving ingredients we don't have.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You are cooking with the wrong people. I am a control freak and my husband and I are complete opposites in the way we approach so many things. But one of us will take the lead and the other is sous chef and we love it. We like each other and doing things together.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

i am so with you. once i had a friend who was career sous/garde mancher and she understood kitchen flow and PERIPHERAL AWARENESS. yeah....we could cook together. but, we arent friends anymore. get out of my kitchen. hahahahaha. either feed me or let me feed you. pick one.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's nice to cook together, but not every day hahaha

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's half and half sometimes for us. If it's been a slow smooth day we work well through it together and bond. If it's been a rough day omg you'd think we hated each other.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It honestly depends on my mood. Some days I'm happy to cook with my husband and find it very fun. He's not good in the kitchen, but he's really helpful as long as I basically tell him what to do and make sure he's doing it properly. (He has other skills around the house and more than pulls his weight otherwise; he's just never clicked much with cooking). Sometimes I'm in the mood to be the kitchen boss and have a good time working together like that, chatting or singing or whatever together. Other times I'm not, though. I just want to listen to my podcast or my music uninterrupted and do it on my own, get into my own little zone, that kind of thing. Or if my husband is in a crabby mood, I just want him out of the way because he's huffing and puffing constantly and just making the whole task stressful instead of fun, and everything becomes much more tense and complicated than it needs to be. He will go watch an episode of TV or do other chores and just leave me to it, on those days. I don't think either is right or wrong; it's very person dependent and, for me, is even just mood dependent.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I am the one that cooks for everyone, and everyone knows, you can find me in the kitchen, and help is always appreciated, they know to bring me a drink, and ask if there is anything they can do for me. I host big family and friends gatherings, and cooking can be intimate, and not just with your partner. One of the things I hated about my marriage, is that he never got involved with the cooking. He watched TV while I was in the kitchen, which, I enjoyed cooking with music, but always craved the company.

by Pamelaking 1 day ago

I can't stand it when my fiancé tries to "help" me while I'm cooking. However, it's largely because our kitchen is very small but he also doesn't do measurements. It drives me nuts. We're looking to move soon, and I'm stoked for a larger kitchen. I can prep the food measurements, and then let him do the cooking.

by kautzereino 1 day ago

Super intimate. I love it. Your a controlling, has to be your way right?

by Kertzmanngeovan 1 day ago

I can get that if working on the same thing, but what about working on different parts of the meal?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

My husband loves cooking together. I make him do all the work while I just direct him. It's a huge waste of my time, but it makes him happy so I participate.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Your kitchen isn't big enough

by Erickgreen 1 day ago

I don't know, man. Smoking a fat one with my wife and making some pasta or whatever is amazing!

by Born-Bullfrog1785 1 day ago

Like all things in love, communication is key So when I say "BEHIND" you better know what to do sous-chef

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You have to divide and conquer. Each person is responsible for one part of the meal

by Zechariahschroe 1 day ago

Same. I don't need to be stepping over someone while I'm trying to do things.

by mariam03 1 day ago

Agreed, but probably because I do not really like cooking that much. lol

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Context matters. Are you having a fun date night with one person, where making the food is more fun than eating it? Or are you rushing to fix up a dinner for the whole family before your kids raid the pantry and demolish all the snacks that are supposed to last you until next month? It sounds like your life is more the latter, in which case yeah - cooking with someone who doesn't know what to do or needs instructions will be infuriating.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Excellent unpopular opinion!

by Ok-Abrocoma 1 day ago

This is personal preference. Cooking with your SO can be a lot of fun.

by Anonymous 1 day ago