"You wouldn't be saying that if they were your family -" yes you're absolutely right

And sometimes they're completely incorrect, because YES I WOULD.

by Savings_Chance 2 days ago

Same. You are comfortable enough to say A LOT to your family members. I am more careful with people I don't know that well because I don't know where it could go.

by wisozktanner 2 days ago

I called my sister a fat ass at Christmas because she was acting like a jerk. I would never DREAM of doing that to a stranger.

by Savings_Chance 2 days ago

Hahaha, because you're not a crazy person picking random fights with strangers.

by wisozktanner 2 days ago

Not in this instance, no. 😂

by Savings_Chance 2 days ago

This right here. About anything. People always think it's a "gotcha" when they're like "you wouldn't respond the same if it was the opposite way!" And I'm just like... Yes tf I would? You don't know me. I did not send for you, do not come for me.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

In the context of what?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Probably: "I don't like them" "You wouldn't say that if they were your family"

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Can't say I've ever heard "you eouldnt say that if they were your family" in response to that. Maybe "I dint care they died"

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Yeah, that one is better.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

More likely imho: "they deserve to die", "they should be SAed", "they look like [insert insulting expletive]"; hardly anyone reacts like that to someone "not liking" someone else.

by Amara72 2 days ago

Context matters here so provide some but if I'm thinking what you're thinking then You literally are saying you are choosing to not be empathetic cause they have a better life than u, you wouldn't give a damn if they died so why should they when it's u that's why nobody should care. Honestly if you aren't cruel or judgmental to those closest to you then offer that same grace to strangers or just ignore them. Takes nothing out your day.

by tamiamueller 2 days ago

Exactly. Being human doesn't cost anything, and I think it actually helps us. Yeah, we're probably not gonna go out of our way to help a lot of people but understanding and empathizing with someone else should be the bare minimum.

by Carson22 2 days ago

Yes it is the bare minimum thank you.

by tamiamueller 2 days ago

Not so much a gotcha moment. But it's often just an attempt to illicit some sympathy from you. Everyone is family to someone.

by No-Chemistry5484 2 days ago

I have never heard that being said unless someone was being nasty about a stranger. Sooooo, you are a hateful human being and you are angry that people point it out?

by Amara72 2 days ago

I've seen this phrase used a lot, but not always in the celebrity context you're talking about, but mostly when it comes to victim-blaming. A very common instance I've personally seen is when a woman gets SA'd and people try to excuse it, asking questions like "what was she wearing?", which they would not ask if the woman in question was their mother or sister or any woman in the family. And it's true that some people would not do so if it was a relative. If the person being a member of your family significantly changes how you see such a case, then you're just a bad person.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Because it reveals your hypocrisy.

by Apart-Emu 2 days ago

If your judgment changes just because it's family, that proves it's bias, not principle.

by SomeChemistry 2 days ago

Not unpopular. The person who said that is the odd one out, that doesn't make it unpopular.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Honestly, it was kind of weird for someone to use this phrase in this context. Discussion about someone's career, when that career is in the public eye, is fair game. But the phrase in general is just a gentle reminder that we all have biases, and that you should try to treat strangers with more empathy and less judgement.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It depends on a context entirely. It's easier to feel sorry for someone you're close to, but some behaviours can't be justified just because you're related.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Exactly. People act like personal connection isn't a factor in empathy. Of course we'd care more for family than a stranger we've never met. That's just human nature.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Not for me

by genevieve38 1 day ago

I actually would probably say it even if it were family. I don't view blood ties as excuses to act like bastards.

by Jacobihilma 1 day ago

really depends on the context. If you're saying, "X person had work done, that's awful," but giving the same kinda procedure a pass for your family, that's a very selfish double standard. But if it's just in the "I don't like X" context it's fine.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If this is true, then you are being a hypocrite.

by Gerlachjohnny 1 day ago

"You wouldn't be saying that if they were your family -" True, I'd say a lot worse if they were my family, lol

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Eh, I'm usually pretty objective. If someone is a jerk, they are a jerk, family or not.

by Anonymous 1 day ago