Finding 'the one' is a made concept and does not exist. amirite?

Finding "the one" is the only way to beat our mechanical overlords.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Didn't we decide around the millennium that it it's Jet Lee?

by No_Platypus1474 2 days ago

It isn't meant to be literal. It's just a way of saying, "Someone you can love and spend your life with".

by Anonymous 2 days ago

eh, I think a lot of people are very fixated on this idea that there's One Perfect Person out there for them and once you meet it'll be magic and everything will be easy blah blah blah. And they use that to justify not putting any work into a relationship that might have worked.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I mean... I've been with my misses for 13 years and everything just sorta "clicked". No awkward conversations, no are we dating crap. It did just sorta work. The "work" wasn't work because we wanted to do it for each other. It was magic.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

under the guys of them not being perfect person for them. Honorable mention: "under the guys"

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I hate it when people get hung up on things like this. "Agreeable" can be used to mean "pleasant or pleasing" and can also be used to mean "something acceptable or an agreed upon term." I don't know if it's accurate or not but I believe using the term as the former is more UK-oriented while the latter is more US-oriented.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

‘The one' isn't a perfect partner waiting for you somewhere in the world. It's the partner you gonna get old and die with.

by Existing_Ad 2 days ago

Even then I still not sure it exists

by Anonymous 2 days ago

You don't think a partner exists with who people want to grow old with?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I do believe in love. But just because someone wants to grow old with someone else doesn't make it 'the one'? I think there are so many different factors. Like relationships just become a form of habit or not being able to afford to live on your? I can think of people I know personally and I just don't understand why they're still together. There's also a reason why divorce rates are high...

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I feel like you're interpreting the concept a bit too literally

by Anonymous 2 days ago

"The One" is the invention of romance and rom-com writers. There are no perfect couples, and even if there were, building and maintaining a life together would still be hard work.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Totally agree. My wife knows I feel this way. Do I think the 1 person I'm compatible with grew up with me in my town of 1000 people? No that's ridiculous to even think that. There's likely thousands of people out there I could make a relationship work with.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Exactly. I believe in love, but there are multiple partners for everyone. I think about the divorce rates sometimes as well

by Anonymous 2 days ago

That's exactly what the machines want us to think.

by Able-Wonder 2 days ago

that's not an unpopular opinion, just an adult, mature opinion. ...oh. right. nevermind, carry-on.

by Icy-Nothing 2 days ago

Prioritize being good to yourself. You are ‘the one'. No one can make you happy if you don't know how to be happy.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Even the concept of 'the one' could be a one-way transaction. Somebody could have the perfect partner but offer nothing in return.

by Relevant-Cloud-3401 2 days ago

"If I Didn't Have You" by Tim Minchin.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

The one doesn't mean the only person in the world who was meant for me. It means the one who I choose as my partner for life.

by Buckridgeestel 2 days ago

Even then how can you be sure?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Well, I found a guy I call "the one", and he's not from my tiny home town, but from a different country over 2 hours away from my home. But even if someone's "the one" is from their home town, it would make even more sense, in my opinion. A person you share your childhood experiences, culture and traditions with sounds the easiest to bond with, and thus be "the one".

by Remarkable_Cloud 1 day ago

‘The One' just means finding someone who checks off all or most of the boxes you have for your criteria in a potential life partner. Similar to buying a home or vehicle, you have your needs list, your wants list, and your dealbreaker list.

by westgianni 1 day ago

Do Mormons find their "six"?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

People rounding up to 9 Billy now

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"I am Yulaw! I am nobody's bitch! You are mine." -- The One (2001)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

we're not meant to be monogamous for life. it's so clear. we're fighting nature by trying. idk why everyone can't understand these very basic concepts 🤦‍♂️ humans are meant to meet, bond, reproduce and then seek another mate. that's our biological,programming. and then everyone asks themselves why they aren't attracted to their husband or wife anymore 🤦‍♂️

by AcceptableTopic1622 1 day ago

I've never been less glad to recieve information

by Mattie82 1 day ago

I think the one isn't found, it's made. You find someone that you're attracted to and are compatible with. The relationship you create and how you grow together, that's what makes them the one you want to spend your life with.

by Hot_Wheel 1 day ago

Ll

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Reading this as I lay next to my one.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's a fantasy movies and tv shows sold everybody on but especially women,probably one of the reasons dating is so hard now you only get one chance if you ain't the one you get dropped quick.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This isn't unpopular to me. I think there are just varying levels of compatability. But I guess others would argue if you're in a relationship that fails, they weren't really "the one."

by Far-Neighborhood5118 1 day ago

That's me

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Once I figure out multiversal travel I think I'll be able to become The One

by langworthvivien 1 day ago

I guess there's no way of knowing for sure. But if a concept like ‘the one' or soulmates exist and are predetermined then it's plausible plausible that they were planted to be in your hometown. I'm not sure I believe in it but I do think there's nothing wrong with having that belief. It's kind of beautiful when I hear it described, I've heard people call it "having an invisible string connecting to you the person you're meant to be with that can't be broken" the only problem is when people use these spiritual beliefs to justify staying with someone who is toxic

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yeah, nothing wrong with it at all. I just don't believe it. Especially not since I love traveling so much. I have lived all over the world.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

yeah I think we could look at it more like one perfect archetype of partner (and even that is not granted to be true), not just one single actual person.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This is true. It's usually just proximity.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This was written by someone who just got dumped.

by Princedenesik 1 day ago

Nope

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I think everyone happily married knows this

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Except I found "the one." I think I had to be the right person for an amazing relationship and that took a lot of work, first.

by ChanceAd6745 1 day ago

Jez is my one.

by Odd_Bet 1 day ago

We're still at a little over 8 billion bud

by schneiderarne 1 day ago

I don't think OP is saying there isn't "A one", just not "THE one". Imagine there was just one person on the planet for you?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Thank you, some people don't seem to get my point. I believe in love, of course. Again, so many factors involved. Who's to say that marriage lasts forever? That's why the divorce rate is so high.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I think this concept of "the one" or of soulmates is a big contributor to the high divorce rate. It's a scale, not a yes/no binary, with "perfect for me" at one end and "oh, God, I'll die if I spend a second with this person" at the other. Thinking there's one perfect soul is a childish, Disney princess way of looking at relationships.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Agree! I know so many people I know who are married that just shouldn't be... doesn't mean it's forever. Maybe I am cynical haha.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

lol relationahips arent all about luck. You seem like a loser.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

One of the many factors in a relationship is luck

by Anonymous 1 day ago