I kind of agree. I don't cheat be cause I don't want to. But not cheating is never romantic or aspirational. It's just something you shouldn't do. That's it.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I think you're deliberately misunderstanding these statements in order to make a thing out of it.

by Broad_Low 2 days ago

I don't think so. Many of these people say stuff like "I never had male/female friends" and are proud of it. I think it's extremely messed up.

by Novarice 2 days ago

The best way to best way to avoid temptation is to steer clear of it. Wisdom to live by. Putting yourself into situations where you COULD do something wrong is a pretty good way to make sure you eventually DO something wrong.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

A hot women is about as hard to resist as an oasis when your stranded in the desert too men... So basically, don't get lost in the desert to start with...

by Anonymous 2 days ago

that's insane to me. it's basically equating grown men to hungry animals. I mean, if it's true and I'm clueless then EW, but I'm pretty sure they are people too/s

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It really depends on context and nuance. If they are paranoid, or do they know the limits of their ability to resist temptation. One can't just "not want to" if they discover they want to.

by Beattybrionna 2 days ago

Just because you want to do something wrong, doesn't give you the right to do it. You should be a honorable person and not do it even if you want to, because it isn't fair to a person you love. It really doesn't depend on context at all. Everyone can resist temptation, if they don't want to, they are a bad person. And even on the 1% off chance you are a person who literally can't help himself, it is not right for you to be in a relationship where you promise you won't cheat, if you can't promise that in the first place, so you are still a bad person if you are making that promise. This is just some wierd moral relativism, and you are wrong.

by Oreillyhertha 2 days ago

Do you think outright criminals "could have just resisted temptation"? We are even more hardwired for sex. I'm not defending excessive precaution, just pointing out there is a reasonable space of it.

by Beattybrionna 2 days ago

It's one thing to avoid pursuing other people in a certain way, but these people always say stuff like "I never had friends of the other sex" or even "I was never in a room alone with another man/woman". That's extremely messed up, I'm sorry. If having a male/female friend or being in a room with another guy/girl is enough to make you consider cheating, I am reevaluating you as a person and our relationship.

by Novarice 2 days ago

Yeah, that's getting into paranoid type of behavior, not "avoiding genuine temptation I may struggle with"

by Beattybrionna 2 days ago