+50 Most weddings are more about showing off than celebrating love, amirite?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

A marriage license in my state is $20 which is coincidentally my budget for the wedding.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I agree, but I play in a wedding band so embrace it fully 💸💸💸

by Flashy_Head_2674 2 days ago

Gotta make nut.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

What does focused on the couples relationship look like to you?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Personally, I want all my friends and family I care about in one place to have a great time spending time together over good food, music, and laughs. Does that cost money? Yes. How much? To each their own. The marriage, love, etc. part is the real stuff, but luckily I get that everyday. Or else I wouldn't be marrying the person. And I am a sucker for a good speech!

by Eichmannthaddeu 2 days ago

Totally agree about the community celebration aspect. Sharing a meal and fun atmosphere to celebrate a marriage is great and wholesome. Spending a year and more than a down payment on a house to live out a fairytale is bizarre to me. It should be a fun and joyful way to start your life together. The emphasis on the materialistic aspects are misplaced to me.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

True, I see most weddings the same way. But probably I don't see normal ones as they are not all over the social medias :D

by Automatic-Lock 2 days ago

Weddings are a chance for folks to cosplay at being rich. Once in your life, you spend way way way more than any normal person would ever spend to host a huge party with your friends and family. Many folks go into massive debt to have the biggest party they could never afford. For what? It's incredibly bizarre and sad behavior

by ZealousidealElk2080 1 day ago

Whenever people say dumb stuff like this I point out that big weddings have existed long before social media.

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Showing off also existed long before social media.

by Alternative_Till5791 1 day ago

A wedding does not equal showing off.

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Monarchs and their lords would definitely be trying to show off their wealth when hosting weddings

by Anonymous 1 day ago

And for everyone that wasn't a monarch or lord?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

If it's not for showing off then why do people spend so much money?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

... Because things cost money?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

But why spend $20-30K, like the average couple does?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Because it's expensive to rent venues and provide food and drink to a large number of people. Also keep in mind that averages are skewed by very expensive weddings like the mega rich. Why do you care if someone spends 20k on a wedding?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

I don't really care what people do with their money. Doesn't change the fact that you sound pretty immature and naive if you think it's normal spend that much on a wedding. But you do you.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Not always but a big lavish wedding generally is.

by Alternative_Till5791 1 day ago

Why? What if someone just wants a big wedding?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Then they are likely doing it to show off or conform to social pressures.

by Alternative_Till5791 1 day ago

Why? And why do you care?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

I don't care to any degree other than a casual opinion.

by Alternative_Till5791 1 day ago

Have a nice day!

by Alternative_Till5791 1 day ago

… Or they just have a vision for who they want there and how they want to celebrate their day. People always assume anytime someone buys something expensive it is "showing off". In reality most people know how to be humble and not flaunt their wealth whereas there's this cringey notion that it's a "flex" to brag about how cheap your stuff is. "Oh I had my wedding at the church and used the community center for the reception and we just did the cheapest food possible with a Spotify playlist" or "my $3000 car runs just fine for now, enjoy having a payment"… Those people are arguably more insufferable than people who say "look at me! I'm rich!" Though, I don't care for either types of boasting because I think people should mind their business and not feel a constant need to compare

by Dull-Set 1 day ago

Wedding celebrations have been literally a thing since ancient times lmao

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Get better friends.

by hebermclaughlin 1 day ago

It starts with the stupid engagement ring

by heidenreichelea 1 day ago

Why?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Strongly agree. I don't know what's wrong with an early evening wedding with a party after and just a bit of food. But no it has to be a huge thing with dinner and everything 😂

by Anonymous 1 day ago

God forbid we celebrate anything with a…dinner.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You're right

by Kemmershayna 1 day ago

I ain't going to pay anything for my wedding. I am straight up going to make it a church style pot-luck except you can BYOB

by Hot_Restaurant 1 day ago

My fiancée and I are having a pretty lavish wedding. A destination wedding at a Scottish castle. Scotland's best chef comes with the venue hire. String trio for live music from ceremony through dinner. DJ for dancing. We can spend the night in the castle and there are 8 other rooms we can have our closest family stay in, all included. Only inviting our closest friends and family and whoever is able to make it is going to have a blast and most people coming are turning it into a European vacation. Never in our life did either of us expect that is what our wedding day would look like. And you know what? We absolutely can't wait. It will be the best day ever. Oh and all of that for basically what an average U.S. wedding was going to cost us!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Do y'all not go to parties?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I just wanna throw a big fancy party, getting married is a hell of a good reason to do that 😂

by kesslerbuster 1 day ago

Well, from my pov, I do agree with you, I think a smaller wedding with family and close friends would be nicer. BUT you do have people who have dreams of a grand wedding and who's to say chasing their dreams is wrong? As long as they don't go severely into debt I don't blame them.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Are you upset that you can't afford one, so people who can are obviously just doing it for clout?

by alejandrin52 1 day ago

Right. Like I don't necessarily disagree with OP but i don't really care what people do with their money. "They go into debt" okay that doesn't affect you at all lol My friend is getting married to a rich man, and it's been her dream to sort of do it big. she is being extremely reasonable with prices because she wants to go all out on the honeymoon. But I'm not about to pocket watch her because it's her wedding, her day, her money haha You can think it's dumb all you want but it doesn't affect you at all.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Honestly seeing this comparison is EXHAUSTING. I went low end of average and had a $20k wedding. My husband and I celebrated how we wanted to with the people we wanted involved. We also made sure guests were taken care of and we wanted a photogenic venue. He doesn't normally wear suits but I had a beautiful gown and he had a dashing suit rental for the day because it was a special occasion. Our music selections helped shape the moments and seeing our loved ones there added to how special it was. Writing our own vows and reading them to each other in front of everyone wasn't something theatrical- it was a beautiful moment that allowed us to proclaim our love. The photos weren't about instagram. They are what we look back on to reminisce on the special day, but it was also fun to have our own little photo shoots while we were dressed up and to see how much love is in the photos. As for the food… We were hosting an event, so it would be rude not to feed our guests well especially when they came just to celebrate us and our love for each other. So no, rather it's $20, $2k, $20k, or more doesn't affect how much it is about celebrating love. Our marriage is way more important than the wedding obviously, but it was still the best day of our lives (well, soon will be second best as we are expecting our first child soon). Let people enjoy things and celebrate the way they wish. You also don't know how weddings are being funded and it is no one's business how much someone else is spending on their day or even if they are choosing to go into debt. Many parents of the bride still pay for weddings. Some people have good enough jobs they can get the debt paid off within a reasonable time frame and for them it is worth it like a house or a car. Ideally weddings are once in a lifetime and it's not some absurd stereotype that many little girls dream of the day and women start planning before they even know their future husband… Devaluing someone's celebration of love because they spent more money than you would is honestly a crazy take.

by Dull-Set 1 day ago

* That's exactly the purpose of a wedding. You don't need any of it just for love. It's a ceremony to inform the public of two people (two families) becoming aligned, presumably forever. Make it a bash.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

and you know what about being married? obviously nothing.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Damn, you seem angry.

by Intelligent-Bee 1 day ago

Got called out. Became angry because true.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Agreed. Couple of years ago friends were having trouble finding an officiant and so I become a registered minister to help them. Their wedding was great, no dress codes or anything, because they understood you invite people there to share a special moment, not to throw tantrums or make demands. There was people there in full tuxes and others wearing blue jeans and t-shirts. During the ceremony there was tables with coffee and doughnuts set up and guests were encouraged to get some even while they were getting married. They wanted their guests to be comfortable and happy. The whole pageantry of weddings is completely lost on me.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's why we did a court house ceremony and the reception at the brewery. From providing appetizers, renting the space, and buying the first round cost about $1500 for the whole thing.

by rutherforddanik 1 day ago

I completely agree. Huge weddings are so tacky to me (if you want to have them, go ahead, this is just my opinion). Getting a marriage license and having a small get together with some family and friends seems way nicer. You get to celebrate your love and not waste a ton of money.

by Unfair-Newspaper5717 1 day ago

Large weddings are a reality show for people who have no talent but want to be stars or royalty for a day. Maybe some really do just want to be the life of the party and look pretty. Others are way more obsessed than that.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Of my friends, the one who had the biggest, most extravagant, gaudy wedding got divorced in less than 2 years. It pissed me off to think her parents spent probably 50k+ just for her to call it quits in less than half a decade. (I never liked the guy anyway, so I had a feeling the whole thing was doomed anyway.)

by Long_Employ 1 day ago

Weddings are a waste of money. I'm tryna bust my wife's cheeks down on an island / other countries for 2 weeks. Weddings seem very performative to me

by wuckertstanley 1 day ago

Excuse me, you're trying to do what to your wife?

by Flashy_Head_2674 1 day ago

I'm tryna bust that coochie wide open

by wuckertstanley 1 day ago

Yessir

by wuckertstanley 1 day ago

Agree, I know so many people that didn't even enjoy their weddings because it was all about buying stuff they couldn't afford to impress people they didn't care about to keep their parents happy

by Anonymous 1 day ago

$30K is a steal

by dickensaustin 1 day ago

I spent well over 100K for my wedding. I don't have social media. But I was so insanely grateful to celebrate my love and future with my husband with our closest friends and family in a place that was special to us. Everyone traveled (don't worry still in the US, I ain't that crazy) to see us. It was truly an honor to celebrate with them, and yes I made sure they were well fed and had fun on their trip. Our guests said our wedding was uniquely ours and that our personalities shone through all of the (expensive) details. We didn't even really have a dress code.. just wanted to be with everyone we care about. To each their own, it's not always about socials. No need to judge others.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I agree 💯 I wish more people would consider their entire future over a party

by Anonymous 1 day ago

if you have a wedding outside during the summer, youre a bad person

by Entire-Celery-3505 1 day ago

Agree, if they really cared about the marriage itself and not the wedding and showing off for everyone, they'd just go to city hall and have a ceremony for just themselves

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's a pretty rigid and narrow view of the world and people, but alright

by Beautiful_Peace 1 day ago

Why can't you celebrate with people without showing off?

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Is a party showing off?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

According to the above person. God forbid you want to celebrate something

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

I wonder do these folks celebrate anything

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Probably consider birthdays showing off

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago

Why can't they celebrate?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'd like a fancy wedding but not to show off to others, mainly I wanna celebrate my love and union with my woman and I wanna try to express that in such a way we can all have the best and most unique experience. It doesn't have to be a million dollars that gets spent but I'd love to do something nice and with a bang. Do weddings need to be expensive to be good? No, but do I want extra bells and whistles to put a bigger smile on my woman's face? Hell yeah I do!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Idk but isn't celebrating love = sex?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

A lot of people find it fun to be grand and fancy. If they can afford it, why not? Everyone reading this has spent money on something they didn't need.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Completely agree. I refuse to go to weddings because they've become so indulgent.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

LOL I can't imagine missing out on a fun time because I'm mad about how someone else spent their money.

by alejandrin52 1 day ago

No kidding. Maybe next to the guest book people should start having hurt feeling report forms so the victims of getting a free meal and drinks can have their hurt feelings be the focus of the wedding.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

WHAT!? I'd never have spent a lot of money on my own wedding, but if someone else wants to throw a giant fancy party and invite me, I'm happy to go lol

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Has this effected your friendships in any way, or are they pretty understanding of your stance?

by Fantastic-Start 1 day ago

So you'll never go to a single friend or family members wedding for the rest of your life? That's weird.

by rutherforddanik 1 day ago

The best wedding I went to was in a random park with about 30 people. 10 minute ceremony, spent all day and night drinking. The worst wedding was in a church with over 100 hundred people and all the formalities. Hated it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Also unpopular opinion: It should be as hard to get married as it is to get divorced.

by Competitive_Age 1 day ago

Lol why

by Acceptable_Pick 1 day ago