Parents charging their kids rent is just wrong, amirite?

i mean, i think it really depends on the situation. if someone is refusing to get a job or leave i think it's completely understandable

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Could depend on the situation, and how far you're exactly pushing them. Someone dealing with certain mental health situations might need to pushed a little less, encouraged to get help first, etc. Also it's kinda weird if it happens the day they turn 18. They're not exactly more capable than a 16 year old for the most part.

by Plus_Advertising 2 days ago

If your kid isn't a lot more capable at 18 than they were at 16, you've got problems.

by Potential-Life 2 days ago

yeah, and problem number 1 are the parents

by carrollsummer 2 days ago

At 18 you can go to war. People are plenty capable by 18 if they aren't there is a reason.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

And its probably the parents fault 😭

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Yeah honestly I forgot to put that part. As long as the kid is doing something with their life and not coming home everyday and doing nothing.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

also i think age matters too

by Anonymous 2 days ago

mmmm i think less age and more what they're doing. like if they're working/going to school. and remember, the job market is cooked

by Anonymous 2 days ago

What age are we talking about? There's a difference thinking your parents should fully support you at 23 versus 33.

by Necessary-Chance 2 days ago

I don't agree. If a kid has their lives sorted and is making good money they should help out.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I'm a parent. My kid always ahas a place here, she doesn't live with me full time but summer and holidays she has her own room here. I want to set her up for success. Even if she makes good money, as long as I'm not struggling I don't expect her to help. If I notice she has issue saving money, then I'll charge her "rent" but it will really just be a savings account for when she moves out on her own

by camille85 2 days ago

Thats the way to do it best I think personally, yes, charge a little rent, but put it to one side as savings for their own place.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If a kid is earning good money and has their life sorted they shouldn't be living with their parents.

by wehnerimani 2 days ago

the idea that a kid should leave home the moment they're legally able is not good for anyone. If possible, kids should be allowed to stay until they're ready to fly the nest, not be kicked out to flounder.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I don't know where I want to live yet, there's plenty of space at home, and my family all likes each other. Why go pay rent for somewhere I don't even want to stay long term?

by Affectionate-Box1110 2 days ago

Why not. Plenty of people still live with their parents despite being high earners.

by Mooreethyl 2 days ago

They shouldn't feel the need to live with their parents as that would signal immaturity and lack of personal responsibility, but if they have a plan for their lives to set up their future family with financial security, then if they are willing to sacrifice let's say 22-25 by living with their parents, and the kid was raised super well and got really good grades, then it can be a very good financial move. Let's say they went to Harvard, got a great software or consulting job making 200k a year, and they are able to save 30k a year living with their parents, okay so they get about 100k at the end of the three years, and then with their own savings, maybe 200-300k total, and then that's a down payment on a house, and they can get a little comfortable boost for their family. Like, in MANY cultures, it is normal to live with your parents until you get married. I don't think this is problematic. It depends on the context.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

How does that make a difference? Actually if the kid is not working, it makes MORE sense to let them live at home to prevent them from being homeless. If you are working and able to take care of yourself, then it doesn't make sense for the parent to give up their own benefits to help their CAPABLE ADULT CHILDREN that should be independent.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Kid didn't choose to be born, parents decided to have a kid. If you didn't want to be on the hook to provide for a child then you shouldn't have had one.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

This is such a stupid argument

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I paid rent back when I lived at home if I was working. It seemed fair. My mum had to pay the actual rent, why should I live there for free?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Same thing. Tbh I would feel weird within a few months if I wasn't contributing after a certain age.

by Fair_Pepper8745 2 days ago

Yea OP is just being a crybaby, talking about parental responsibility while refusing to pay his way. But we were all teenagers once

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It's also quite possible that your mum would have moved to a smaller and cheaper place of you didn't live there, so it's reasonable that you helped cover the extra expense. Also, quite a lot of people can't spend extra money on rent. Many parents struggle financially when the kids live with them, and after the kids have moved out they need to start saving for retirement. A couple of "lost" years there can cause a lot of problems.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I think it depends on how old the kid is. 18+ with a full time job, covering a portion of rent/mortgage is totally reasonable. But if they're a teenager they don't exactly have much choice about living there, and it isn't reasonable for them to live on their own on a part time job they're doing alongside school.

by abigale66 2 days ago

Of course, I'm talking about situations where an adult is living with their parents. As long as someone isn't an adult, it's the parents' responsibility to keep their kids housed, clothed and fed.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

My parents rule was that as long as I was working and/or in school, I was NOT responsible for rent under their roof. Especially the school part. My brother for a while decided to take a break from school, and during this time, my parents charged him "rent". They kept it aside in actuality, so once he was ready to go to college, they gave him the money back

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Me and my parents worked out a pretty nominal rent for me when I got out of full time education. Enough to cover my share of food, bills etc, I helped out with chores too, same as I would in any shared house really (just with flatmates that would fall asleep while watching TV on an evening while doing a crossword rather than playing loud music until 3AM). Seemed fair to me, wasn't anywhere near as expensive as moving out so I could still save, but also gave me some impetus to get my life together since staying at home wasn't a free ride, and my parents had costs to cover too.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I feel like contributing to rent when your parents are renting is fair, it's just like sharing with the monthly bills. Being asked to pay rent when your parents own the house though... it depends how much is being asked for.

by HotConfection6208 2 days ago

Charging full rent is harsh, I agree. But if the kid is working? Not unreasonable to expect them to contribute to household expenses.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Perhaps not unreasonable, but definitely counterintuitive. Unless the parents are struggling financially I don't see why you would want to disadvantage your child in the current economy. Not charging rent (aka paying for your own house and letting your kid stay for free) is an untaxed financial gift to your children.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Once I was working and earning money I paid rent. Not a huge amount, but enough to prepare me for the realities of the real world. It got me used to budgeting.

by Tklocko 2 days ago

Depends, but if you're an adult earning a salary then you should be relatively equally responsible for the household.

by Impressive-Form8715 2 days ago

Relatively being a key word here. If they make less money than their parents (and usually far less) it would make sense for them to pay less.

by Plus_Advertising 2 days ago

Yes, absolutely. Same when a married couple has a significant income difference.

by Impressive-Form8715 2 days ago

Equally responsible is still a bit much imo, most kids only really even have any say over their own room, have no authority over anything else in the house other than their own room. Saying they should have ‘equal' responsibilities without equal anything else is just weird

by Wonderful-Night-2238 2 days ago

Most Asian parents charge their kids rent no matter what.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Am Asian and don't personally know anyone who does. They do expect free labor if there's a family business though.

by antonia40 2 days ago

My dad charged me £100 a month rent once I was out of full time education. I actually think it was the right thing to do. It was a fraction of what rent would cost, but helped me learn to manage my money, and I was an adult and should contribute to the household if able to.

by EntrepreneurIcy 2 days ago

also home ownership was a LOT more easy and affordable back then. so was securing a good job and staying there.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

depends. are you still in school? no contribution whatsoever necessary (but welcome if you yourself decide to help out via a part time job or something). are you an adult living at home after finishing your schooling? you better be damn sure you're contributing. not "rent" per se but you will be covering your part of the household expenses (the amount that covers "your part" can be up for discussion depending on the reality of the job market, your willingness/effort put into finding a job, your salary, your contribution to doing household chores, health situation etc). i'm from a culture where adult kids living at home is seen as totally normal provided they don't freeload and pull their own weight. being someone's child doesn't mean that you get to exist like you're 10yo forever. unless your parents completely failed to prepare you for the reality of life you should be capable of getting a job and paying some bills.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

You're 24 dude. Help pay some rent and do dishes and take out the garbage.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

OP doesn't realize that his parents want him out of the house.

by Kelsimonahan 2 days ago

Vastly depend on the situation. If the son/daughter has an income then they should definitely pay rent.

by Ansleyabshire 2 days ago

What my parents did once I got a job, $200 each week for "rent" but it was just going into a savings account that I didn't have access to, to save money to be able to move out. But I also think once you're a certain age (and depending on the financial situation of you and your parents), rent should be paid (and not for your own savings).

by Anonymous 2 days ago

How old are you and what is your parents financial situation? When you get to a certain age you should be responsible for yourself somewhat and maybe they need that money to sustain your eating habits, heating, electricity you consume etc. I agree kids shouldn't pay, but it depends how you define kid.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I take rent from my son and add it to a savings account (unknown to him) and he's going to get it all back when he decides to buy a house.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'm generally against parents charging their children rent, but an arrangement like this where they get the money back after they move out is something I can get behind.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

this. unless the parents are completely unreasonable and asking a studio rent for a single bedroom or something splitting the expenses with them equally will definitely be a much better deal than anything out there. i live with my mom and go 50/50 on bills with her and there is no way either of us would be able to live on her own that cheap.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Mine would find it insulting. They want their kids to have every financial cushion. Immigrant mentality. They made fun of Americans

by Anonymous 1 day ago

My parents were immigrants. Charged rent once I was out of school and had my first full-time job. They saved the money and gave it back when I bought a home. Being financially responsible and contributing to the household should be a given for any adult.

by Top-Bee 1 day ago

Depends on the situation, if they've just turned 18 and don't have a full time job then they shouldn't If their 20 and have a full time job then 100% they should be helping out

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Mate, pick it up. That little $360 a month my parents charged me has nothing on my $1200 rent plus utilities. Just taught me to budget around the bills. If youre working and not in school, with nothing to cover your parents, life's gunna hit hard bruv. You get food and a roof? You want it for free? Life's gunna hit hard unless you plan on living with your parents till they pass and taking the house. But if youre struggling with cash, are you ready for a mortgage, home owner's insurance and going through the court to handle changing the dead?' You're struggling paying your parents rent rn....

by Usual-Passenger-7309 1 day ago

I'm sort of confused by the concept. My parents never charged me rent to live at home when I was under 18. When I was 22 I moved back for a year, they charged me a really low rent. It would have been odd when I was a minor but when I was an adult it was a good deal, cheaper than renting with roommates.

by Homenickeloise 1 day ago

if they're in school they shouldn't pay rent, otherwise yes they should. it teaches good values

by Old_Combination 1 day ago

I love how they had reasons and your reasons are just 'Nah bro'

by Elian74 1 day ago

When they're full grown adults? They should just be dependent on the parents forever?

by Fair_Pepper8745 1 day ago

Dude believes we should allow fully grown infants to mooch off their parents lmao

by Leopoldo71 1 day ago

Only Siths deal in absolutes! That depends on the situation

by Colecheyenne 1 day ago

"adult kids should be able to live in their parents' house and use resources that cost money to provide, without contributing to providing those resources" is certainly a take.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sorry. Comes a time when you can't mooch of your parents anymore. Contribute and do your share or find something else

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Is their kid a kid or an adult? Because I agree if it's a child of course.

by Fair_Pepper8745 1 day ago

will be even more unpopular but I sometimes wish my dad charged something. I asked him but he just doesn't. I don't like the feeling of living for free with my parents (I'm 23). Could've possibly moved out, but have so much uncertainty in my life that it's just not worth it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

imagine your kid blowing all his money on Pokemon cards instead of saving money to build his life and he has that money because he has no bills to worry about under your roof. if my kid was living in my house you better believe we're doing budget and bank statements reviews every month.

by christiana45 1 day ago

who said they were doing all that? what if the kid is trying to figure stuff out? god forbid a kid has a interest that makes him happy. very true, he shouldn't be blowing ALL of his money on pokemon cards. but he should def be getting some to keep him happy.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sounds like daddy is telling you it is time to grow up, buttercup. My parents threw me out of the house at 19 for not following house rules regarding alcohol. It was sink or swim time. Best thing they could have ever done for me. If you are over 18, not working full time, or not contributing to the household in any meaningful way, it's time to pay up.

by ambrosedaniel 1 day ago

Ehh. I see your point. But I also feel like that's the part parents miss out on. Teach them how to budget and save early. Motivate them to move out and live on their own. I feel like moving out can be an exciting if you show them that.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

How old are you?

by dustyrippin 1 day ago

I mostly agree (have three kids aged 23 to 15). Only recently expected my adult son to start contributing financially -- once he was clear of education and had settled into full time work. He earns approximately £2,000 per month, if he moves out his cost of living would be that and some -- we ask him to contribute a token £100 towards the cost of running the house; he's an adult with no meaningful household bills to pay so this is entirely reasonable. We have friends who charge their adult kids a lot more, I don't really think it's right but it's can also see how charging him so little I'm encouraging bad financial habits (i.e. he's gonna get used to having high disposable income and it'll either be a massive lifestyle shock when he does move out, or hell just never move out)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Is it reasonable? Sure. Would I do it to my kids? No. If I felt like they were grown enough to make a living, but were just mooching off of me, I'd just give them a time frame as to when they'd have to be out of the house.

by Bauchchristiana 1 day ago

My mom's stance has always been reasonable to me. If you are not currently a student then you pay rent. No one gets to live somewhere for free.

by Massive-Video-6855 1 day ago

I'm glad my parents did. It helped me prepare for living alone. Going from not having any expenses outside of your own interest to suddenly have to pay rent and bills would have been a lot more jarring if my parents didn't prepare me for it. It made me take savings more seriously, since I realized that I would have more and more expenses to think about in the future. It also just felt good to help my parents a bit. We weren't poor or anything but we definitely weren't rich either.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If you're an adult, you need to contribute to the household you live in.

by Naive_Hunter 1 day ago

I'm a parent and would never charge my son's rent for living with us. I was raised that way … whenever there is a family gathering parents pay.

by Rippinjerod 1 day ago

This isn't an unpopular opinion. This is just OP being mad at their parents for not giving them a free ride through life.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Depends on the situation. "Happy 18th birthday. Get a job to pay rent or leave" is quite drastic. "Happy 25th birthday…yeah, you need to start paying rent. You've dropped out of school and are simply playing video games all day"…this is understandable. "Happy work anniversary and congrats on the promotion. Chip in for the food and utilities you use from us" is expected.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's American thing

by Prudent-Country-9319 1 day ago

oh it's definitely not. UK here and when I got apart time.job at 14 (so still in school) I had to pay my parents "keep". When I was 16 I move dour into my own place as they wanted about 50% of my money then. Very common in the UK.

by Hettie00 1 day ago

This exists in all countries. Iam Swedish and when i was 19 and got my first full time job i had to pay market value rent to my parents. About 4 months later i moved out.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

dawg market value is CRAZY

by Anonymous 1 day ago

We lived in central Sweden so housing and rent is cheap. I payed them 4000sek ≈ 400€ to rent their guest house. I payed the same for the apartment i moved to.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Western* Countries for most part , maybe very few Non-western (Maybe)

by Ellen19 1 day ago

It exists in all except maybe the Vatican nd Monaco. Hovewer the percentage that is affected varies.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

A lot of the cultures where adult children live at home may not charge rent, but they still have expectations of those children. The parents tend to have a lot more say in their kids' lives and expect that the kids will, in turn, take care of the parents in their old age. It's a trade off and just depends on what you would rather deal with.

by Necessary-Chance 1 day ago

If you're an adult living at home you should be paying for it

by Wcollins 1 day ago

Worded it better than I did.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

if the kid is working a full time job and is able to save up 4k to blow on a month long trip to japan i think asking them to contribute to the household expenses is more than fair.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Tell me you are 45 and living in your mom's basement without telling me you are 45 and living in your mom's basement

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Totally agree. Parents have obligations to their children that never run out.

by Loose_Grape 1 day ago

When i got into my apprenticeship and started earning money (mind you it was 700 bucks a month then) I had to start paying for my own stuff, which means health insurance, phone bills and rent, i payed 300.- to my parents as rent and another 200.- for the other bills. So i had 200.- bucks every month to myself while all my friends had 700.- I completely agree with you its messed up and if not ABSOLUTELY necessary will not bring any positives.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

So i had 200.- bucks every month to myself while all my friends had 700.- That's the wrong way to look at it. Everyone's situation is different. I don't think your parents should charge you 300 a month for rent, almost half of your paycheck, that's a lot. I don't think anything is wrong with asking you to contribute financially to the household, though. I'm not sure if you'd be the type to offer if you were never asked. Paying 200 for your own stuff is, probably, fully acceptable. You technically have 400 left for yourself after your parents ahem "take their cut," the rest goes to stuff you think you should have.

by Party-Wing 1 day ago

i know a family where the two children are working but wasting all their money. so the parents charge "rent" and give it back to them in a few years. So to say a forced saving.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Charging your child $100 or $200 is one thing or paying a utility , there's no place you're staying with free lights,food,heat and laundry for a $100. Charging your child $600-800 month is another. Honestly as a functioning young adult you should want to contribute something.

by jeffery36 1 day ago

The responses are interesting. I personally would not charge rent to my kid if they are working and doing stuff with their life. I would be more inclined to to do so if they are being lazy and not doing anything. I have no problem helping my motivated kid get their footing

by GrouchyWhile 1 day ago

I think it teaches good values, the value of money (especially when getting a lot for the first time) and saving. I don't think it should be market price if it's a stupid housing market but reasonable based on revenue.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

When I first started work I volunteered to pay my mum "rent" as soon as I got my first wage packet. My parents were very hard up during my childhood but I never went short of anything. It just seemed like the right thing to do.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

As I wise man (my dad) once said: everything you pay to us you'll have to pay inheritance tax on later. If you want to teach responsibility, make them put the "rent" in a savings account they can only use as a down payment for a mortgage.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I paid rent after I was 18+ and had a job whine living at home. Taught me the value of money and how to plan finances

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I guess that's a very American think to do - my parents or nobody I know would fathom charging rent to their kids, on the other hand, sometimes I feel they would pay us money to stay at home longer lol. But also this is probably at least part of the reason for those memes that say that Europeans stay at home until they are 30…

by Longjumping-Oil-1675 1 day ago

I got charged rent and payed bills in a house with 3 siblings and my mother. Kicker was my stepfather(who my mother kicked out) was paying all the bills. For context this was in highschool

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Like many others, you're placing an unrealistic expectation on your parents. They are people too, just like you, me or anyone else. If you're working and earning a living, paying them back for the 18+ years of raising you is the least you can do. Why should they continue to fund your life?

by Guido95 1 day ago

because they're family. i'd absolutely house them if the roles were reversed without even thinking about it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's a garbage answer, because we're faaaamily. Screw that. You should be helping them by contributing because they are family, see how easily that can be turned around.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Nah, it's up to each individual situation. I know I'm not going to be kicking my kids out at 18, but they'll be required to either be working or going to school. If they're working they're going to be 'paying' $400/mo, and $300 of that will go into a HYSA or rolling CD that I will give back to them when they move out. The blanket statement of 'no rent for adult children' just isn't going to catch the times here it's not only reasonable, but preferable.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

They're trying to teach you about budgeting and saving by expecting you to surprise budget and save. Most people learn by doing the actual thing with supervised trial & error. Merely being shown something is not going to make it stick.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Up to a certain age… if you're an adult -fully capable of working-then you contribute to the household.

by Scared_Artichoke2942 1 day ago

How old are you and where do you work?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's very situational. How financially secure are the parents? How much earning by kid / how long. Are they earning or being lazy, is the rent higher / lower than "fair market", are the parents saving the rent on behalf of the kid, is the kid actively saving, is the kid in some kind of education, how much is the kid doing re housework, are the parents controlling movement......

by Anonymous 1 day ago

When I graduated highschool, my dad told me that if I chose to continue living with him, I needed to either go to college, or help with bills. That seemed fair to me, honestly. He told me the deal well In advance, and I never had hard feelings about it. He didn't want me to be a freeloader.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Over 18, you're paying rent at home or you're paying rent on your own. If you think you're teaching something here see the current case study of the generation right now

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Why do children get to be lampreys? Unless you're going to school or disabled you should be giving some money

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'm disabled myself and I give my sister and bro in law 800 a month (split between the three of us), for my half of the rent and other expenses. Do I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick? Sometimes yeah but the landlord isn't lowering the rent anytime soon.

by Ciaramorar 1 day ago

Children paying their parents rent seems like a very American/western concept. My parents make fun of people that make their kids pay rent.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Well as long as there is clear expectations there should be no problem with a parent expecting rent. Especially if you are around the house a lot. Totally understandable that many parents want to help their adult kids get ahead by not paying them rent but the reality is a lot of the current 18-mid 20s will probably never earn/save enough to own their home without money from the parent or saving their income while living rent free with said parent. Ultimately though, a parent shouldn't be expected to provide for you in that way if they already supported you decently for 18 years. They have lives to save for too.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yes, I agree. At a certain point an adult should be able to cover their own living expenses but your parents should never charge you rent.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Adult kids with jobs shouldn't pay rent?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Not if they're living at home. If the parents are really struggling financially then the kid should help but charging your kid rent is so cruel and heartless. Kids should be able to live at hime and save their money.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If the child is over 18 and have a job, i think its fair to charge them rent. If they ar under 18, than it would be wrong.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I think you mean, "if they are an adult with a job..."

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I joined the army at 17. Lived in the barracks, so I didn't have to worry about rent and utilities, but I got a paycheck every 2 weeks. And every 2 weeks, I blew my paycheck. I never had to worry about real bills, so I didn't learn financial responsibility. When I got out of the army 10 years later, I had no idea how to function like a real adult. It took me years to unlearn the bad habits I'd learned in the army. My sister charges my 20 year old niece rent and utilities, while helping her to budget so she can also afford car, insurance, phone payments. Because of this, my niece is more financially responsible than I'll ever be.

by Cordell55 1 day ago

I would either expect my kid to pay rent (which I would save for them while they saved up as well for a down payment) or make them save their own money and be fully involved with their finances. They wouldn't be living under my roof rent-free while simultaneously blowing all their money like normal young adults do.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Kids about to be homeless, thinks his dad's trying to teach him responsibility.-

by Anonymous 1 day ago

So your parents don't need help? They just want to take your money?

by NoDiscount 1 day ago

I pay rent to my mom. I'm a grown adult though. Rent and housing in my area is ridiculously out of control. So it's just makes more sense to live with her and pay rent. I have a full time job. I'd rather not feel like a bum taking advantage of

by Many_Engineering 1 day ago

Depends for me on the situation. My son has recently moved out and rents a room of his paternal grandma, I say rent a room. But he just pays for the bill increases so like if the water bill goes up £10 per month now he's there he'll pay that for example and it comes to roughly £80 a month he pays £40 and I pay the other £40 (simply because he moved to be closer to college and I'm cool with this. But I do think charging your kids anything that would have been the same anyway is a bit harsh. Unless it's temporary help and your children are more than capable? Like are we talking about an 18 year old or a 32 year old? If I was in a one bed apartment of example and my 30 year old needed a place to stay and I had to then rent a 2 bed would it then be unreasonable for them to help pay rent? Idk. It's all tricky for me. But personally no I wouldn't want rent help. Maybe when my daughter is older and has a job she might have to pay for somethings like her own make up or phone?

by Open-Resident 1 day ago

I feel like the word kid is being tossed around in many forms. A child up through HS under any normal circumstances should never have to pay for things they need. Ever. But- they can certainly get a job and start paying for things they want, at about 14 IMO. of course, I was working in the back of a pizza joint/dvd rental working the slicer at 14 (til I cut the side of my thumb off) - So perhaps stick to raking lawncare jobs til 16.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If you cannot afford kids, don't have them. Asking money from your child is probably the most vile thing a parent can do. I would rather have a freeloader son (which I have) than asking money from my own offspring. The only thing I demand is that he help with the chores. Asking for money is just disgusting.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It depends on how old you are. I also think it is wrong to charge underaged children. I also think it is wrong to pay underaged children for chores. But if you are grown up and earn some money and still live with your family, you should help out.

by Gutkowskibryana 1 day ago

Once you are an adult your parents are not required to support you

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's the expecting parents to continue being financially responsible for you part that's crazy.

by Party-Wing 1 day ago

For real. I've seen it happen. The parents retirement is completely gone because the kids won't get a job.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"recouping the cost from the child is...Greasy" Child being the operative word here. Not often I have to quote myself to make a point.

by Any-Bite 1 day ago

Something being legal doesn't make it right. If we gonna by law, slaves used to be legal too.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I agree but if you are an adult you should at least offer to help on your own. There are a ton of things that are illegal but should be legal but once you are an adult your parents are obviously aging and you should at least try and make it on your own. I worked full time to pay for my own university.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Nope. Once you're out of school then it's up to you to pay your way. If you live at home you contribute

by Corenewindler 1 day ago

Nope. They chose to have the child. No matter their age, its their kid. They should never tell them to "pay their way" with them. And im sorry you were raised that way.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

Having a kid doesn't mean at 30 you have to pay for every single thing for them. That's insane.

by Fair_Pepper8745 23 hours ago

Of course not every single thing, but food and giving them a place to sleep is the bare minimum. But no they shouldnt be paying for them to have games and movies and trinkets.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

So, who's paying your parents' way while they pay your way through life? I guess it doesn't matter, right? Just as long as you don't give them any of your money.

by Party-Wing 23 hours ago

I do think family should be there to help you and give you a place to stay when you need it, certainly parents, for the most part. But the expectation shouldn't be they HAVE to when you're 25+. That's entitled thinking. What if they had to downsize and move to a 1 bedroom apartment? Eventually, people have to grow up.

by Fair_Pepper8745 22 hours ago

Once you are an adult you need to take care of yourself. Sorry you are 45 living at home bro

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

I agree with you. I lived with my parents until 25 while I was in university until I moved in with my wife. I have 2 girls and they can stay with us as long as they want. I've got so many family members that just suck off the parents and ruin their parents retirement and it's wild. My wife is Pakistani so we've been trying to get her parents to move in with us so we can take care of them. The intergenerational living is really an advantage if you can stand your family. A part of me wants them to move in because I would literally never have to worry about cooking or cleaning but our kids are old enough to take care of themselves now but it would have been great to have the help when they were little.

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

bro kids used to help from the time they were 5 years old this thinking you are used to is only the past 30-50 years

by christiana45 21 hours ago

it's just a privileged way of thinking that's all I'm trying to say in a perfect world we can have what you want but it is not that way. I'm glad you had a stable household growing up though

by christiana45 21 hours ago

resources cost money. once you're an adult who has finished schooling and has had time to find a job you cannot expect those resources to be provided for you for free. by that logic your grandparents should be obligated to house your parents and you without expecting them to contribute. and your great grandparents should also be obligated to house your grandparents. who will then house your parents and you? see how this doesn't work the moment you look a bit further than yourself?

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

They were free for 18 years. Did they all of a sudden lose all their income exactly on their kids 18th birthday? You take care of them u til theyre financially stable to leave. At 18, in the year 2p25, what kid will have enough money to live on their own? What money would they have to "pay rent" to their parents? What's a fair price to charge your child? You gonna charge your kid $1800 rent the minute they turn 18? Did you tell them and prepare them for those before they became 18? Did you help them find work at 16-18 so they could have money? Why would they all of a sudden need to contribute financially? Is helping around the house with laundry, food, and yard work not considered labor? The fact that many arbitrarily choose 18 as the cutoff is asinine. They still have the word "teen" in their name. They cant even legally drink for another 3 years. And you want this "adult" to all of sudden pay you money. From what? Their part time fas food job where they make $200 a week? Do you NEED that money? And if so, why havent you been leasing a good example by being financially set yourself? Are you that poor that you need to tale money from your child? Isn't because the boomer grand parents took money from them to "boost their character" and whatever nonsense they spouted? I think the problem is everyone thinks when someone hits 18, thats it. Their youth is done. So now you gotta hit them with life. And we should be doing the exact opposite. If your kid is helping in other ways, than financial contribution is arbitrary. Why charge them rent if theyre working a job AND helping around the house. What makes you entitled to your child's money? Because you spent your money? Thats. What. Parents. Do.

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

A lot of parents charge their kids "rent" and then give it all back to them once they move out, so they have money to start out with. That's what I would do if I had kids.

by Anonymous 21 hours ago

If they are no longer in full-time education, then I think it is important that all adults contribute to their living expenses. I think a large part of the reason I was able to manage life along as an adult is that I was expected to be an adult in small increments growing up. If the parents can afford too then its lovely if they can save that money to give back to their children to own a home or some other expense. Mine could not afford that and I am not upset by that. I was a grownup working a job that paid better than my stepfathers straight out if uni, of course I should pay my share.

by Anonymous 20 hours ago

I have every intention of charging my kids rent if they're over 18, living at home, and not in school. However, it'll go into savings and investments and returned as a surprise for when they do move out.

by Anonymous 20 hours ago