Ive had several empathys insist something is wrong as they can feel the energy. Im just introverted / quiet and awkward, and youre making me feel more weird for insisting Im unhappy

by Ornery-Fan7434 2 days ago

I hate that too. Had an old wedding date once who kept asking me "are you okay? Are you sure? You seem angry…" And then had an odd vibe the rest of the night. I was literally doing the worm on the dance floor minutes prior and people were cheering. Like ok I guess you're actually right because now I'm not having fun lol

by Anonymous 2 days ago

some people like playing the role of the hero just so they can pat themselves on the back

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I don't think it should be about having "more empathy than others" if you feel you're an empath/empathetic I see it as relying more heavily on your emotions to process situations and to understand others, you often put yourself in other people's shoes and that's how you try connect to them. You can definitely read people incorrectly because while you can read expressions like any other person, you could also be projecting your emotions on someone when they don't feel the same way that you do about things. Like you assume someone is upset about something they might not be upset about. I would consider myself somewhat of an empath but I also misread people all the time and I'm overly conscious of making others upset. It's also not a huge part of my personality regardless lol

by Anonymous 2 days ago

The first paragraph you wrote is basically me.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

yeah that doesnt mix, a lot of misreading and beeing overly concious about making others upset doest really go together woth "empath"

by Deep_Poem 2 days ago

I wouldn't say I misread people a lot I'm saying that's something you can do if you're empathetic and rely on reading others with emotions. Being an empath isn't a superpower and you magically don't have social anxiety or something. You can think what you want, I know myself as a person and being empathetic is an important aspect in how I respond to others. Empathy is still drawn from your own experiences and adapting it to the situations and feelings of others, and your empathy for others grows through personal experience.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Fair enough :D

by Beginning_Rip 2 days ago

People who call themselves empaths think they're magic and people who actually have high empathy don't call themselves empaths. Having high empathy just burns you out and makes you seem like more of a dick longterm most of the time.

by Francisco77 2 days ago

Every "empath" I've met has been a narcissist who just assumes people feel the way they feel.

by Bashiriansilas 2 days ago

This is great actually. Most are performative simply because they're people pleasers. Saying you're an empath at this point in life is 100% performative too. Aren't we all? Lol

by Anonymous 2 days ago

yea and people pleasing isn't empathy it's hyper vigilance (saying this as a people pleaser)

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I once read somewhere that most empaths are actually just highly manipulative and/or sociopathic, and the idea never left my brain. It just makes a lot of intuitive sense that people who claim to "know" a stranger's emotions aren't all that great at empathy and are instead huge gaslighters. I've never taken anyone who claims to be an empathy seriously.

by Winter-Beyond3217 2 days ago

I disagree with this.

by Anonymous 2 days ago