I am not inviting people with no intention of coming.

by AdReady8297 1 week ago

In my experience, the invitation you've suggested at the end is seldom if ever extended. It often feels like in these types of friendships, one member is expected to produce all the entertainment and events for the other to cherry pick which they would like to engage with, and never extend the invite themselves to something else.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Who goes to a party and announces they don't want be there? Maybe your parties just suck

by crooksvickie 1 week ago

You've never met a person who's just a bit of a drag? Always complains? You must have met at least one person like this.

by AdReady8297 1 week ago

I don't really see the problem, personally. If it's a scenario where I'm organising an event for a group of people, I'll be doing event management jobs whether or not my introvert friend/s are there. Therefore, it costs me nothing to let them know what's planned and that they can come if they want to. If it's a small event and it does matter whether or not a particular introverted person comes, I'll have communicated with them a lot more directly and if it's not something they want to do, I'll either just do it myself or not do it. There's still not really a cost there - no more than asking anyone else ‘hey, do you want to go do x thing?' Either way, I don't really see where there's an issue.

by Pretty-Reading8638 1 week ago

Cleaning up twice for a maybe gets old

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Maybe it's a work or family mandated party so they have to be there.

by santinojerde 1 week ago

That's not this situation. We're talking about people who want to be invited to things but not actually go. A mandated party you just have to go, it doesn't apply here.

by AdReady8297 1 week ago

I get most of your reasoning. Yes, planning takes time. Yes, it's tiring to ask again and again. Yes, it's DEFINITELY an asshole move to go to a party and then whine. Buuuut... I think you're kinda taking a small part of the community and generalizing. Some introverts really don't have the social battery. Most of them say no outright, so planning isn't influenced by their choices, and even if they come to the party and their battery depletes they don't tend to whine, but mostly sit in a corner and stare at the void (or, in best case scenarios, go home early saying they're sorry). Most are REALLY happy to come to a party (when they're up to it), to be included and invited, mostly cause (being introverts) they don't have a ton of friends, so it means a lot to them. (I'm under the impression this person you're referring to — cause it def looks like you have someone in mind — just doesn't like the people at the parties, and is using the introvert excuse)

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Is that unpopular?

by Top_Wave5910 1 week ago

I don't think this is unpopular at all.

by Ok_Pass 1 week ago

I don't want to go and I don't won't to be invited. Your opinion is just not true. It is just anecdotal bs.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You realize, of course, that your opinion is anecdotal bs?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't think so. Most introvert characteristics are shared by the group in general. This story about some entitled diva'ish introvert is a one off story.

by Anonymous 1 week ago