Unfortunately, a lot of people who are in abusive relationships are really uncomfortable with the Abuse word. It's accusatory, it can be alienating and shameful, and at worst, the victim jumps to the defence of the abuser. And often, you don't really know. You can't speak with authority about other people's relationships very often and expect to be taken seriously. For that reason, it's often more helpful to say things like "It's valid that you do not want to be treated that (abusive) way. If they can't meet that need and change thier behavoir, then you're not compatible." Whether or not the other person is abusive or not, the fact you are not compatible is still the truth, and it can be an honest way to speak to a person who is still struggling with feelings of shame, or the desire to defend or excuse thier abuser. It's fun and righteous to blame abusers, but it's often not the best way to speak to the victim.

by Zealousideal_Job4767 4 days ago

I was really thinking about insult/abuse

by Anonymous 3 days ago

If anything we hear that far too rarely

by Anonymous 3 days ago

The "we're not compatible" only works in dating situations. If you have been in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time, that's just plain breaking up.

by Emmy66 3 days ago

Did you mean "combatible"?

by Lockmanhillard 3 days ago

Yes I made a typo

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Did YOU mean, "compatible"?

by Earl78 3 days ago