Not being in love is liberating :) amirite?

My bet is OP is 3 days past their breakup.

by shanie46 4 days ago

Him and the guy who wants everyone to cut off contact with their ex should start a support group

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Where is that one, I was reading it, and lost it

by Any-Shoe 4 days ago

There's literally nothing keeping me up except my career plans sweetie

by collierwilliam 4 days ago

RageRoom or Singles bar?

by shanie46 4 days ago

Not everyone is desperate like you dear

by collierwilliam 4 days ago

I am not asking you out, I am asking you what business you are dreaming of opening.

by shanie46 4 days ago

That's my business not yours :)

by collierwilliam 4 days ago

touché[]()

by shanie46 4 days ago

No, not being in a bad relationship is liberating...

by Anonymous 4 days ago

make major life choices or even change your viewpoint on things that were once non-negotiable. I hope someday you will get to understand why making those changes is worth it.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Do you believe this is true...or do you need it to be true?

by Anonymous 4 days ago

nah, peace and freedom has no price for real. Its worse when you pick anyone just to avoid loneliness. I would hate myself for that

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Well sure, if your only two choices are "no love" and "pretending you are in love with anyone just to avoid loneliness." Some people experience actual feelings of love. Haven't experienced it myself, but I've heard good things offline.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

exactly. Its always someone else. Im done waiting and being the caring one always ended up making me seem like a stupid tool for them. I chose myself now

by Anonymous 4 days ago

With the take KYS is liberating.. but what you described doesn't sound like love. It sounds like unhealthy attachment.

by Gideonbogisich 4 days ago

I'm sure some are like that, but being with my partner for 15 years has been a lot of us motivating each other to reach higher and do better. It's been nothing but a net positive. What you described sounds awful lol

by Anonymous 4 days ago

It often makes you act stupidly, waste your time, and center your life around someone instead of focusing on yourself and your dreams. That sounds like a "you" problem, not a problem with being in love. Plenty of us fall in love without having our entire life orbit around the person. That sounds like infatuation, not love. Maybe you're young and you will eventually learn the difference between the two. It took me a while, admittedly, but I was very slow to mature. When you're in "healthy love," you don't need to ignore yourself and your dreams.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Agreed. Romantic love is pointless and just creates more boundaries on what you can do. I was in a romantic relationship for a couple months and it was just terrible because there was an expectation of constant openness, which I fundamentally disagree with. I have since reverted back to a platonic relationship with that person, and while it's a deep sense of platonic love, I no longer feel the pressure to have to warp my sense of personhood to another, which is inherently what a romantic relationship is. To some this 'warping' is healthy and good and provides them a purpose. To me, it just makes me uncomfortable and upset. The assumption that everyone ought to be okay with the level of devotion a romantic relationship requires is harmful. No one is broken for just not wanting to deal with that. Why would I force myself to engage with people on a level I don't want and that grosses me out because of a claim that I'm going to be sad and lonely and a 'weirdo'?

by bergstrombrenda 4 days ago

I also think that . When I had no prospects and no relationship. I had nothing to worry about, nothing to look forward to. Nothing. It was freeing for a while.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Yeah it can be.

by Any-Shoe 4 days ago

i don't want a proper relationship

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Love as in just romantic or love in general? Because I love my friends and we have each other's backs and have proven this time and time again. Romantic love I don't know anymore, I am far happier now out of a relationship and putting all my effort into my friends and family and I see no real reason to change anything as I get everything I need from them love, support, chaos and adventure .

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Hey, whatever you need to tell yourself to fall asleep at night.

by Soft_Slip_5730 4 days ago

Completely agree. I love not being consumed over a crush.

by Karolanngrady 4 days ago

A crush isn't love

by Gideonbogisich 4 days ago

A hard crush or a tad short of love makes you act crazy, too.

by Karolanngrady 4 days ago

Love isn't toxic, that's unhealthy attachment

by Gideonbogisich 4 days ago

Not really, that's just obsession, or maybe stupidity

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I 1000% agree. I really think it's a method of mass mind control popularized by the media we consume, to the end of making sure we reproduce and keep the population levels up. We are led to stupid, irrational and impulsive decisions when we are in love. Usually we do not fall in love with someone we are truly compatible with, we get attached to whoever will have us because we want the fantasy fulfilled so badly. The social rites of passage like engagements rings, weddings, honeymoons, etc. Being single is framed as this horrible thing when it really isn't. So people are too scared to leave relationships they aren't even happy in. But like you said, it's liberating. I'm open to external love, but I don't need it anymore. I'm not trying to escape being single anymore, because I've been much lonelier in certain relationships than I ever was when I was single.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

It's evolutionarily, you melon. People weren't in love before media? It's a chemical reaction that draws you to mating. Life wants to live. It's that simple.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

It's an unpopular opinion that I happen to agree with. Love and less to make you stupid. Your life is usually more prosperous without it, especially if you are a woman

by Anonymous 4 days ago

This was really funny to read

by Anonymous 4 days ago