Sex isn't sacred or special, hook-up culture doesn't matter, amirite?

It seems kind of shallow to me to care how many partners someone has had, actually It matters in so far as people want to be with someone who shares their values. If someone is saving themselves for marriage, good for them. They probably want to be with someone who shares that value (or at least respects it). If someone views sex as a more casual thing, good for them (as long as, as Op said, everything is safe and consensual). But they probably don't want to be with someone who wants to wait until marriage. Do what feels right to you, don't judge others - including judging others for having a preference when it comes to their own partner.

by Clear_Dimension 2 days ago

Certainly not with that attitude!

by Due_Interview 2 days ago

It matters in the sense that you have shared values in how you view and approach intimacy. Some people dont like jumping into bed right away with someone and would rather do that once they get to know a person. Im one of those people. Some people like to sleep with people often and early and thats cool too. There's no one right answer. Do what works for you

by Ada28 2 days ago

Looks like someone never had emotional sex.

by Horror_Math_953 2 days ago

Most people I've heard who say sex is sacred tend to be the ones mad they aren't getting enough and hate on those who are.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

The individual's view of sex is important for two partners to have sexual compatibility in a relationship. People that are saving themselves for marriage are totally reasonable to want a partner that does the same. The number of partners someone has had is usually a good indicator of whether they share core values with me.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

You ask how many partners a person has had? Isn't that personal as well and nobody's business if the person doesn't want it to be?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Not random people obviously, only my partner that I'm planning to start a serious relationship with

by Anonymous 2 days ago

And if they don't want to tell you? It's still their business. I've never been at the point in a relationship that I tell myself "I'm about to have a serious relationship with this person." It just becomes serious.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Yes, not to strangers but someone who is likely to become my future. I would definitely say mine and would expect the other one to say. That alone obviously would not decide the fate of relationship but will be one of the many factors that results in incompatibility. It's definitely my business to know a person completely if I am about to spend my life with that person. Don't want to end up in a 🛢️.

by reillymaximus 2 days ago

You never completely know a person.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

But u can always try to reach the limit. Better to have as much info as possible than to have none at all.

by reillymaximus 2 days ago

It doesn't personally matter to me how many partners someone I'm dating had before me. I'm secure enough because if we're dating it means they chose me. I think we should respect people‘s preferences because how consenting adults choose to live their lives really up to them.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Who are you to decide how other people should feel about something so personal?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I wish this would be unpopular… But this is the most popular thing nowadays. For what reason you would be sleeping around with different people? Why do you need that?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Popular opinion

by Feisty_Chocolate8075 2 days ago

More popular with women, less popular with men.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Even more popular with a few high status men

by eden25 2 days ago

Tell that to most of Middle Eastern people

by eden25 2 days ago

It's really just a personal preference for a partner more than an opinion ngl

by Advanced_Shoe_1602 2 days ago

I agree with you about the worth of the parties involved. It doesn't matter how promiscuous anyone is. But a ONS is way different than communicative, loving sex with a partner.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It's special on the sense it's heaps of fun and feels awesome.. I look at sex like table tennis... It's great to play with someone you love and build a bond over it... It's also heaps of fun to play with randoms over a beer or two.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

What's your point. Can't different people have different preferences on this one? I don't enjoy casual sex. I'm someone who needs a strong emotional connection to enjoy sex. It's nothing to do with moral judgements of others, it's just what I'm comfortable with. I also don't judge anyone for wanting to have casual sex. If every participant gives enthusiastic consent AND is aware that the sex is considered casual then go for it.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Sex is a sacred exchange of energies in my opinion. I don't have sex with just anyone just because. I'm not into casual sex. It is special to me. To each their own though.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If anyone wants to treat it as such and do not consent to doing it with you because of that, do you accept that their opinion is valid too?

by Dry-Mountain7839 2 days ago

Life seems to differ

by Anonymous 2 days ago

The reason why it is viewed as special or sacred is because otherwise only a few men would sleep with most of the women

by eden25 2 days ago

You don't matter. Except you do. But you don't even know it

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It isn't sacred but it sure as hell shouldn't be taken so lightly, it can only result in conception and/or diseases and id say thats a pretty big deal

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Sad, for you anyway. Sex is what you make of it depending upon your beliefs

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Its not a matter of opinion. Its a matter of values. If a person values intimacy as something that shouldnt be so freely given as a woman, thats their prerogative.

by tatum74 2 days ago

In MY opinion, it's sad to have sex with someone you don't love. I guess it's because those aren't my values. I can tolerate it from someone else, with a bit of a bad taste in my mouth, because my body is the last thing I'd give to someone I don't feel anything for hahaha

by Cautious_Ability_224 2 days ago

If i put my finger if my cup of tea 20x i can still drink it. If me +19 dudes put their finger i throw it away and ask for another cup. To each their own.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

That is a comically disgusting and misguided misogynistic analogy. lol. Even if you want to reduce an entire human being's worth to that of a beverage, they're not just a single unchanging serving of it. These metaphorical (I hope we're still talking metaphorical here) fingers might be touching the same tea cup, but the tea has been changed and the cup cleaned between goes.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

But you don't often hear women equating men to inanimate objects nearly as often as men do it to women

by Gkeeling 2 days ago

Cause men are "things focused"/ logical, and women are "people focused"/ emotional.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

I'm just glad the men in my life don't compare me to a dirty cup of tea or a used car 😭

by Gkeeling 2 days ago

Oh! Oh! Now do the spiel about how men are "biologically hardwired" to reject monogamy!

by Clear_Dimension 2 days ago

Trying to excuse men for objectifying women by saying it's because men are "thing focused" isn't much different than the guys who try to justify their infidelity by saying men are biologically hardwired to reject monogamy.

by Clear_Dimension 2 days ago

He just draws the line at equating women to dirty, broken, inanimate objects 🤣 he's obviously very moral!

by Gkeeling 2 days ago

Whoever justifies infidelity is piece of trash, women or men.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

hurr durr men are more valuable than women.

by Vern32 2 days ago

Nope, i find them the same valuable.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

You just said if a woman sleeps with 20 guys she is worth less than a guy who sleeps with 20 women. That's a double standard.

by Vern32 2 days ago

Where did i say this?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

"if me +19 dudes put my finger in one cup..."

by Vern32 2 days ago

It's pointless to reason with him, save yourself from a headache

by Anonymous 2 days ago

So you view women as objects designed for your personal consumption?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If I was a cup of tea I'd be 3rd degree scalding your finger. You're allowed to have preferences, but it does suck that you choose to imply women with more experiences are soiled somehow. It just doesn't translate to the real world.

by Ok_Juice 2 days ago

I imply nothing. I just have my preference.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If I say I wouldn't date you because I'd rather drive a corvette than a rusted out 08 sun fire, it actually does have more implications than just saying you're not for me 😂

by Ok_Juice 2 days ago

Tbh i don't care what is the reason not to date me. Preference is preference.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

This is disgusting.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

No this is called a preference. Drink away if it's your cup of tea. There is no right or wrong answer here

by Anonymous 2 days ago

So you see women as objects?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

A metaphor that suggests women are objects to be used for his personal consumption.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Furthermore I find it more disgusting that you feel entitled enough to think that people should have to ignore preferences to date you or those your defending. As if people aren't allowed to be selective based on any number of criteria when it comes to being in a relationship with someone. If I don't want to be with someone I don't have to be, and if your life choices are unattractive to me, but still want to date me, that's a you problem not a me problem.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Not an unpopular opinion

by Hairy_Scheme9817 2 days ago