I think that some people just hang out with really lousy people. Most of the people I know are pretty good. You're there are definitely some bad eggs, but I live in a community that is very high trust where people look out for each other.

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

Is this true though? If you were in a bad situation, would your community actually help you?

by wilberwolff 1 hour ago

Totally. I injured my arm and my neighbour chopped wood for me. I got Covid and my friend brought me food and medicine right away. I always have a friend or neighbour who's willing to take my cat when I'm away on vacation. I have a neighbour who comes by and offers me raspberries from her garden when she has too many. My friend offered to lend me their car for a month when mine died. My basement flooded and my friend's parents let me stay in their house for almost a month.

by Anonymous 1 hour ago

All of these things didn't require much effort. Your friend brought you food like what so your friend spent 20 minutes? Your neighbor brings you extra raspberries? So raspberries they never would have used? Your friend offered to lend the car - so a car they don't use? (Even if this one is genuinely helpful, I'll give it to you) Your friend's parents offered to let you stay in their house - so in a room they don't use? All of these things aren't actually that meaningful. If you needed 5K ASAP or your mom would die, would anyone help? Would they actually believe you're good to pay it back? These are the kind of situations I'm talking about. Ones that require actual sacrifice.

by wilberwolff 1 hour ago

You are the problem in your relationships and friendships. You see bad because you look for bad. He sees good because he looks for good. Didn't see you mention anything about how YOU show up for people in a reliable trustworthy way. You get back the energy you give.

by Anonymous 49 minutes ago

Oh my! I love having friends and socializing. My friends have literally (and I mean literally) saved my life multiple times. I think society would be healthier if we prioritized friendship and community over work and the nuclear family.

by bgleichner 36 minutes ago

There's gotta be a line though. People should have the bare minimum amount of skepticism and we'll all be better off for it. But too much and we have a bunch of flat earthers and birds aren't real lunatics

by Eva53 13 minutes ago

Doesn't have to be a masquerade. Enjoy the time you spend with that person and leave when you don't want to spend time with them anymore. No expectations breeds joy.

by Anonymous 11 minutes ago