I'm sure there is no way to prepare to deal with living with aids or something like that. Yet preparing also means taking means to prevent it. The other negative results aren't massive issues but they shouldn't be something shrugged off. If a young girl and guy get pregnant or get an STI, it shouldn't be 'oh, it's fixable.' Abortion or medication. The consequences should be thought over first before the act is committed, so they can prepare to deal with, or prevent them.
You would be less surprised by preparing for the chance. It could help you have a game plan on what to know.
Just so you know, I am the OP, and while I was mainly referring to pregnancy, I was also talking about anything that can come of sex. That includes, pregnancy, children, STI's, etc. Any of that, including the unsolvable issues can be dealt with easier if you are emotionally and mentally prepared to take on the challenge of it and know ahead of time what you would do in that situation.
Sorry if I'm butting in here, I just want to say that emotionally and mentally preparing is still preparation. It helps you able to deal with the outcomes instead of being shocked and confused as to how and what happened. It's being not surprised. When someone scares someone or surprises them, the person can scream, faint, cry, a number of reactions before they have a clear head and are able to deal with the situation. Preparing mentally and emotionally for something means you don't get that shock or surprise. You skip the crazy reactions and can go straight into intelligently dealing with the situation.
Well if you aren't ready or fully capable of dealing with the consequences, which could mean avoiding them, then you shouldn't be having sex.
They don't have to want a child or be ready for one, just being ready and capable to deal with how to avoid that. But also know that it can happen so they should think before getting into bed with every guy they meet.
READ THIS BEFORE YOU FREAK OUT if you didn't read all the comments. I know it was a poor choice to direct this to only females. Males need to do the same. I just think it's more obvious when a female made a bad choice and ended up pregnant. But both are equal in blame and responsibility.
Their free choice was never going to be taken away. I never said nobody could have sex unless they want a child. Just that they need to be responsible like your first sentence states. I never questioned morals. You agree with the point I was making. You can make your own safe, personal choices. I was trying to say everyone should make safe personal choices, which often involves knowing and being ready, or preparing against, the consequences. It isn't just pregnancies. "Fully capable of dealing with the consequences, mainly pregnancy and a child" implies that there are more consequences those are just the most common. By being able to deal with consequences means they are aware they exist and will prevent against them if they don't want them. It could mean people are safer, it would stop the spread of Aids from being as great. I think you need to re-read and actual think about what I was trying to say before you argue and accuse me of trying to take away free will to be satisfied with the world.
I know guys in today's society don't have as much pressure as the girls. I have heard both sides, I do know, however, most guys will walk away, or step up at first and then decided they don't want to deal with the commitment.
Also the girl is the one dealing with the pregnancy more so than the guy (even if they get an abortion). I should have not generalized, but I felt more girls were not caring about the consequences. Where I live guys are the one who make sure they have a condom and take the precaution. The girls don't care.
And to reply to your comment about how the guy leaves because the girl is toxic, well an example of how they should (yes the guy too)have known each other more and be ready to raise a child with that person.
I wasn't just talking about pregnancy though. I just highlighted that one because it happens more, and causes worse damage, for the most part, than other consequences.
I wasn't saying you should have sex only to procreate, I did say consequences, meaning all. I just highlighted pregnancy and children because it is one harder to deal with. Ignoring abortion because everyone has different views, do what you want but if that's your solution to being irresponsible it isn't right. But, condoms and birth control aren't 100% effective. There is a slim chance, but still a chance of pregnancy or even an STI. I don't think you should only have sex to have children. What I was saying was that you shouldn't have it without being able to deal with the consequences. If you are 12 and decided to and get pregnant, what are the chances of being able to deal with it (it's possible they could but slim). Also at that age would they be open to telling a parent or someone to get treatment for an STI? You shouldn't be just mature enough to have sex but able to, in the off chance it happens, deal with the consequence, whatever it maybe.
While my post said mainly pregnancy and children, I also was talking about other consequences, like STIs.
Not just girls, but they tend to have more after affects to deal with. A girl is stuck with the pregnancy and baby, while the father can, at a young age, just walk away.
I can actually see some girls where I live getting pregnant to get out of school for awhile because they don't like it. Yes, teens are sexually mature and able to have babies and sex. It doesn't mean they should. Today's society frowns on it because it tends to ruin lives. Yes, some teen mothers do fine and everything happens. However, that's not always the case. There are times when, because the mother has no job and the father is often someone they don't remain with and not able to be counted on for child care or support or even funds, it often ruins her life and the babies. I'm not saying it always happens, or does a lot, but it can lead to starting a cycle of poverty. Not have a maternity leave at high schools would, hopefully, make girls not make the decision to get pregnant. It's not a sin, but in this society it shouldn't become a norm.
I understand how you don't like men ogling and leering at you. That's normal. As a girl who gets that it isn't acceptable and not at all okay. I do however don't think it's right to wear a short skirt and then get mad. Yes, the male sex should have better control, but honestly we all know there are pervs out there. While there isn't much to do to stop them. They are fully in rights to stare how they want, no matter how uncomfortable it is for the object of their unwanted attention. If you don't want the attention, wear a longer skirt. I don't mean one that goes to your ankles. just one that's around knee length. That still shows off your legs, and should stop most of the discussing leers. While it won't stop them all it stops the worst ones. I believe that women, in this day and age, should know how society is and dress accordingly. There are ways to show off your body and still look decent enough, and be cool enough (since you said you lived in warm climates). I don't know the length of the skirt, but the term 'short' shows you know its not normal length and appropriate.
Even people who really shouldn't wear that? Girls who are too much on the heavy side to wear that?
I didn't before, but i do now. :/